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The Life of Abraham #1: Abram Meets God

CCEA School of Discipleship

March 16, 2025

Introduction

About me

I’ve been married for 46 years to Debby Cathers.  I have three sons and four grandchildren.

I’m a musician – my Bachelor’s degree at CSUF was in Music

My Master’s degree at Biola/Talbot was in Bible Exposition

I’ve known Pastor Bob since grad school, over 40 years.  I used to sit behind him in Church History at Talbot.

I’ve been teaching the Bible over 40 years as a youth pastor, assistant pastor, and 25 of those years as Senior Pastor of Calvary Chapel Fullerton.

In 2020 I handed the church to one of my protégés, and in 2022 I stepped away from CC Fullerton to let my team run things without the old man looking over their shoulder.

I currently teach a Greek-soon-to-be-Hebrew class to a small online group of young senior pastors.

I’ve written a book – you can find it on Amazon.

I am so very grateful for this opportunity to teach this class.

 

About our class

We’ll be drawing most of our material from the Bible, specifically Genesis 12-25.

I will tend to teach mostly from the New King James Bible, simply because that’s what I’ve taught from for about twenty years. You can use any version in class to mark up and make notes in. Please bring your paper Bibles to class.  I want you to mark them up.

We will be doing a little bit of memorizing in this class. 

For this class I’d like for us to memorize Hebrews 11:6, 8-10 (that’s a little different from the syllabus, sorry)

And we will have a reading assignment each week from Charles Swindoll’s book: “Abraham – One Nomad’s Amazing Journey Of Faith”

I will only require you to read the one assigned chapter I give you each week, but that only will cover seven of the twenty chapters in the book.  If you want to be reading the entire book, there’s a list in the syllabus that will show what extra chapters you can read each week to make it through the book and keep in synch with my teaching.

 

As you might have seen in the email I sent out last week, I will be making video recordings each week of our class and posting them to YouTube.  If you have to miss class for any reason, I’d appreciate it if you would let me know, then watch the video on YouTube, email me the answers to the quiz, and you’ll get full credit for that class, including attendance. I will send out an email each week on Monday that will give you a link to the YouTube video as well as have my full notes attached.

 

I would like to encourage you to be sure to get to class on time since I will usually start right at 3pm in order to get all the material in each week. Be sure to sign in and also make a namebadge for yourself.

 

Abram Meets God

Abram vs. Abraham

I know you signed up for a class on Abraham, but he was originally known as “Abram”. 

God will change his name from Abram (which means “exalted father”) to Abraham (“father of a multitude”) in Genesis 17:5.

Genesis 11

After the flood

I don’t know if you’ve ever heard this before: “Abraham was the father of monotheism” (the belief in one God)

I remember hearing this back in high school history classes as well as college classes.

The problem I have is that Abraham didn’t “invent” or “father” monotheism. Monotheism has existed since God created man. Abraham just went back to the truth.

 

I want to take you back in time to the days after Noah’s flood.

Everyone on the earth was wiped out except for Noah and his family.

The earth would be repopulated from the three sons of Noah.

You can see a listing of the nations of the world coming from Noah in Genesis 10.
In Genesis 11:10-26, we have the specific lineage that connects Noah’s son Shem to Abram.
In this genealogy we are given how old a man was when his son was born as well as how long he lived after that.
If you add up the numbers, you find that Abram was born 297 years after the flood of Noah.

Noah lived 350 years after the flood (Gen. 9:28)

Shem lived 500 years after the flood (Gen. 11:11)

Another way to put it is like this.

Abram was 53 years old when Noah died.

Because Abram only lived to be 175 years old when he died…

Shem outlived Abram by 28 years.

The world likes to think that Abram “invented” a religion that only worships one God, but keep in mind, there is nothing original about it.
Noah and Shem worshipped one God.

They knew who had caused the flood.

But from the flood to the time that Abram was born, the world had once again plunged into idolatry like before the flood, even though Noah and Shem were still alive to testify of who the one true God was.

 

Genesis 11 ends with Abram’s immediate family.

Show “Terah’s Family” slide

We are given the genealogy of Abram’s father Terah. (vs. 27-30)

:27 This is the genealogy of Terah: Terah begot Abram, Nahor, and Haran. Haran begot Lot.

:28 And Haran died before his father Terah in his native land, in Ur of the Chaldeans.

:29 Then Abram and Nahor took wives: the name of Abram’s wife was Sarai, and the name of Nahor’s wife, Milcah, the daughter of Haran the father of Milcah and the father of Iscah.

:30 But Sarai was barren; she had no child.

:31 And Terah took his son Abram and his grandson Lot, the son of Haran, and his daughter-in-law Sarai, his son Abram’s wife, and they went out with them from Ur of the Chaldeans to go to the land of Canaan; and they came to Haran and dwelt there.

:32 So the days of Terah were two hundred and five years, and Terah died in Haran.

It’s at the death of Terah that God speaks.

 

Genesis 12

:1-9 God’s promise to Abram

:1 Now the LORD had said to Abram: “Get out of your country, From your family And from your father’s house, To a land that I will show you.

:1 Now the LORD had said to Abram:

Abrammeansexalted father”.

God will change his name from Abram to Abraham (“father of a multitude”) in Genesis 17.

:1 Get out of your country … from your father's house

Genesis 11:31 made it sound like it was Terah’s idea to move from Ur to Haran, now we see that the move was because of God speaking to Abram.

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Abram was originally from “Ur of the Chaldeans”, a famous, powerful, and wealthy city on the Euphrates River, about 175 miles southeast of Babylon (in modern Iraq).  One source said that Ur was where they first invented the bathtub.
Joshua tells us that Abram’s father, Terah, served other gods (Josh. 24:2) while at Ur.  Ur was known for its worship of the Sumerian moon god named “Sin” or sometimes “Nanna” (like the English Sheepdog from Peter Pan??).  Archaeologists have uncovered a ziggurat from this time built for Sin that towers 70 feet over the desert.
Originally, Abram left Ur with a group led by his father, Terah.  When they left Ur, they went northwest along the River Euphrates about 600 miles to the city of Haran (in modern Turkey). To make things more confusing, Haran is ALSO the name of Abram’s dead brother and the father of Lot.
It’s interesting to note that Haran was also known for its worship of the moon god Sin.
Eventually Abram will make his way south to Shechem, about 400 miles southwest.

In the New Testament, Stephen tells us that the original call to leave came to Abram in Ur, not Haran.

(Acts 7:2–4 NKJV) —2 And he said, “Brethren and fathers, listen: The God of glory appeared to our father Abraham when he was in Mesopotamia, before he dwelt in Haran, 3 and said to him, ‘Get out of your country and from your relatives, and come to a land that I will show you.’ 4 Then he came out of the land of the Chaldeans and dwelt in Haran. And from there, when his father was dead, He moved him to this land in which you now dwell.
It seems that when God originally called Abram, Terah was willing to go along and so Terah led the group as far as Haran where Terah wanted to settle down.

If you are reading through the rest of Genesis, you will see Abraham’s relatives making trips back to Haran to fetch new wives.

But Haran wasn’t the promised land.  And it seems that Abram got stuck for awhile in Haran.  It’s not until Abram’s father Terah dies, that God reiterated the original call to leave and go to a land God would show him.
Terah understood part of Abram’s call, but for some reason he was unwilling to go all the way.

Terah’s name can be translated “delay”.  It seems that Terah became a “delay” in God’s plans for Abram.

Lesson

God doesn’t give up

God spoke to Abram while he was in Ur, and God said “Go”.  God promised to lead Abram to a special place.  It won’t be until Abram arrives in the land of Canaan that God will say, “This is the place”.
But along the way, Abram got sidetracked.  He got stuck in Haran.  He got “delayed”.
I don’t know how long it was in between the time that God first called Abram while he was living in Ur until the time when God called again to him at Haran, but it had to have been some time since they had to have traveled 600 miles, and apparently they had settled down in Haran until Terah died.  One commentator suggested it was 25 years between Abram’s first call in Ur and his second call in Haran.
I find it incredibly gracious of God to not give up on Abram.
Is there something that God has asked you to do?  Have you been sidetracked?  Maybe today God would want to remind you of your calling.
 

Quiz Alert!!

Lesson

Leaving the old life

God’s call often requires us to make a choice between people and God.  Jesus said,
(Matthew 10:37 NKJV) He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me.

It seems important for God to tell Abram to leave his “father’s house”.  He needed to leave behind this house that worshipped the moon god.  Yahweh wanted Abram to follow Him.

God’s call requires us to leave the old life behind.
(Matthew 16:24 NKJV) Then Jesus said to His disciples, “If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me.
I wonder if sometimes we don’t quite take this serious enough.  I know there are times when I’m not sure I do.
Play “Playing Dead” video

At times we “pretend” to be serious, to “play dead” to sin, but we’re only pretending.

God doesn’t want you to be a half-hearted disciple who only goes part of the way with Him. God wants us to be serious, completely serious about following Him.
A drug addict that leaves a stash of drugs just in case they really need it is going to find that they “really need it”.
But if they get rid of that stash and don’t make it easy to go back to the old life, they have a better chance of moving forward.
 

:1 To a land that I will show you

Lesson

Go

God doesn’t say where they were going, He just says, “Go”
One of our memory verses will be:
(Hebrews 11:8 NKJV) By faith Abraham obeyed when he was called to go out to the place which he would receive as an inheritance. And he went out, not knowing where he was going.
Sometimes the “go” comes before the “where”.
We want to know all the details of the trip before we go.  We want to feel comfortable.  But God often doesn’t give us the details because He wants us to trust Him.
In 1994, when we were struggling with whether or not to leave the comfort of being an assistant pastor at Calvary Anaheim and plant a church in Fullerton, this verse in Hebrews was the one that God used to push us out the door.  I wanted to know what was up ahead.  I wanted to have written guarantees that everything was going to be okay.  But the Sunday before we made up our minds, I was teaching on a Sunday night in Hebrews 11:8, and God reminded me that I didn’t need to have a written guarantee.  I had His command to go. So we gave our notice at Calvary Anaheim and two months later we started the church in Fullerton at the YMCA.
You can only change the direction of a car when it’s moving.
If you’re looking for God’s direction in your life and you aren’t sure what He wants you to do, perhaps you need to just start moving.  Maybe do the last thing God asked you to do.  Maybe just start serving. I hear there might be openings in the Children’s ministry.
 

:2 I will make you a great nation; I will bless you And make your name great; And you shall be a blessing.

:3 I will bless those who bless you, And I will curse him who curses you; And in you all the families of the earth shall be blessed.”

:2 I will make you a great nation;

This promise is fulfilled in the nation of Israel.  Even though several other nations will also come from Abraham, the promise of the blessing of God would go from Abraham to Isaac, and Isaac to Jacob/Israel.

:3 I will bless those who bless you, And I will curse him who curses you;

This is one reason why we ought to “bless” and pray for the nation of Israel.

Do you want God to bless you?  Bless Israel.

:3 And in you all the families of the earth shall be blessed.

There would be something coming from Abram that would not just bless his own descendants, but the entire world.

This is the promise of a Messiah, a Savior.

Paul wrote,

(Galatians 3:8–9 NLT) —8 What’s more, the Scriptures looked forward to this time when God would make the Gentiles right in his sight because of their faith. God proclaimed this good news to Abraham long ago when he said, “All nations will be blessed through you.” 9 So all who put their faith in Christ share the same blessing Abraham received because of his faith.

Illustration

William Engebretsen from Nebraska writes, “For three years, we had a sheep ranch in western Nebraska. Each year, we sheared some sheep, sold some, and butchered a few lambs for leg-of-lamb for our family and our cattle-raising relatives. In 1990, we moved to Indiana, so I could attend seminary. One Sunday, my three-year-old son Ian was learning about the Good Shepherd in his class. “Ian, your dad was a shepherd,” the teacher said. “What did he do with the little lambs?” She expected to hear about the care and protection I provided them. “He kills them and cuts off their heads,” was Ian’s blunt reply. The teacher was dumbstruck. Later, I “sheepishly” suggested that next time she could tie it in with Jesus’ role as the sacrificial Lamb.”
We might think that God blessing the world through Abram might mean something nice like Abram winning the lottery and sharing his winnings with everyone.  In reality, God blessed the world through the slaughter of a lamb. 
God saw that we had a terminal disease – you and I are sinners and our sin is taking us to hell.  And God loved you and I so much that He allowed His own Son to die a horrible death on the cross and take the penalty for our sins.  And it’s this same Son, a descendant of Abram, that opens up heaven for us if we’ll only trust him.
 
God has blessed the world through Abram.
 

:4 So Abram departed as the LORD had spoken to him, and Lot went with him. And Abram was seventy-five years old when he departed from Haran.

:5 Then Abram took Sarai his wife and Lot his brother’s son, and all their possessions that they had gathered, and the people whom they had acquired in Haran, and they departed to go to the land of Canaan. So they came to the land of Canaan.

:5 SaraiSaray – “princess”; she too will get a new name from God, “Sarah” which means “noblewoman”.  Her name change takes place at Gen. 17:15.

:6 Abram passed through the land to the place of Shechem, as far as the terebinth tree of Moreh. And the Canaanites were then in the land.

:6 Shechem

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Shechem is 360 miles southwest of Haran.

Play Shechem map video

It’s the city located in the valley between Mount Gerizim and Mount Ebal.
Many things take place at Shechem in Bible times.
Today it is known as the city of Nablus (a Palestinian name)

:6 terebinth treeelown – terebinth (which is a tree that terpentine is made from)

Other translations are “oak tree” (NLT, NAS), “great tree” (NIV).

You could simply translate the Hebrew here something like this: “Abram passed through the land to the place of Shechem, as far as Elon Moreh.

There is a small town on top of Mount Moreh called “Elon Moreh” (in other words, we know where this place was)

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Here’s a view from Mount Gerizim, looking across at Elon Moreh.

:6 Canaanites

The same people that Joshua would one day would be conquering.

The Canaanites were known to have had pagan shrines in groves of oak trees.

Abram has left his pagan family to follow God.  And he’s arrived in the land of the pagan, idolatrous Canaanites.

 

:7 Then the LORD appeared to Abram and said, “To your descendants I will give this land.” And there he built an altar to the LORD, who had appeared to him.

It isn’t until they get to Shechem that God says “this is the place”.

This is the place where he didn’t know he was going to.

Abram’s response?

 

:7 he built an altar to the LORD

This is the second time that the word “altar” is used in Scripture.  The first dates back to the time just after the flood when Noah built an altar.

(Genesis 8:20–21 NKJV) —20 Then Noah built an altar to the Lord, and took of every clean animal and of every clean bird, and offered burnt offerings on the altar. 21 And the Lord smelled a soothing aroma. Then the Lord said in His heart, “I will never again curse the ground for man’s sake, although the imagination of man’s heart is evil from his youth; nor will I again destroy every living thing as I have done.
The world had been destroyed.  The only living things left were Noah, his family, and the animals on the ark.
It was quite an act of faith for Noah to take and sacrifice animals, when the world needed to be repopulated.

We will see a hint of Noah’s sacrifice when we get to Genesis 21 and Abraham is asked to sacrifice his only son Isaac.

What’s an “altar” used for?

The word for “altar” (mizbeah) comes from the root word for “sacrifice” (zabah)
There are quite a few types of sacrifices in the Old Testament.
It may be a sacrifice for forgiveness of sin.

I am asking God to forgive my sin.

I sacrifice an animal that is taking my place, dying to pay the price for my sin.

It may be a sacrifice for consecration.

I am giving myself to God, to follow Him.

The animal on the altar is like me, giving myself completely to God, the fire consuming all of me.

Paul wrote about presenting our bodies as a “living sacrifice” (Rom. 12:1-2)

It may be a sacrifice of thanksgiving (probably like Noah’s)

In the book of Leviticus these were part of what were called “peace” offerings, where an animal is slain and we all sit down for a barbeque dinner with God.

We aren’t told what Abram’s motive was in building this altar, though it could be “thanksgiving” since God has told him that he has finally “arrived” in the land God was leading him to.

In the Tabernacle there was even an “altar” of “incense”.  Animals weren’t sacrificed there, but incense was burnt.

It was a place of prayer, with the incense rising up like our prayers rising to God.

We call this “intercession”, where we are praying for specific things.

An altar is a place where I connect with God.
 

Abram will build four altars as he moves around the land of Canaan (we see two today)

Shechem (here)
(Genesis 12:7 NKJV) Then the Lord appeared to Abram and said, “To your descendants I will give this land.” And there he built an altar to the Lord, who had appeared to him.
Bethel
(Genesis 12:8 NKJV) And he moved from there to the mountain east of Bethel, and he pitched his tent with Bethel on the west and Ai on the east; there he built an altar to the Lord and called on the name of the Lord.
He will visit the altar at Bethel later on

(Genesis 13:3–4 NKJV) —3 And he went on his journey from the South as far as Bethel, to the place where his tent had been at the beginning, between Bethel and Ai, 4 to the place of the altar which he had made there at first. And there Abram called on the name of the Lord.

Hebron
(Genesis 13:18 NKJV) Then Abram moved his tent, and went and dwelt by the terebinth trees of Mamre, which are in Hebron, and built an altar there to the Lord.
Moriah
(Genesis 22:9 NKJV) Then they came to the place of which God had told him. And Abraham built an altar there and placed the wood in order; and he bound Isaac his son and laid him on the altar, upon the wood.

Here is the clearest and earliest example in the Old Testament of what we call “substitutionary sacrifice”.

Lesson

Devotions

God longs for us to connect with Him, yet you no longer need a physical “altar” to do it.
Jesus was talking to a woman at a well right outside of Shechem (where Abram is now). The woman was a Samaritan, a group who worshipped God on Mount Gerizim (which overlooks Shechem)
(John 4:21–24 NKJV) —21 Jesus said to her, “Woman, believe Me, the hour is coming when you will neither on this mountain, nor in Jerusalem, worship the Father. 22 You worship what you do not know; we know what we worship, for salvation is of the Jews. 23 But the hour is coming, and now is, when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth; for the Father is seeking such to worship Him. 24 God is Spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth.”

Worship no longer requires a special “place”.

Worship comes through the Spirit in your heart.  I like to think of our “heart” becoming the new “altar”.

Worship must also be wrapped in truth about God (as opposed to the twisted Samaritan religion).

I think we ought to be spending time with God every day in a time that we set aside for God.
One of the elements of our devotions ought to be in reading God’s word, and listening to Him speak through it.
The other element in our devotion time ought to be at the altar, where we are concerned about things like:

Forgiveness

Consecration

Thanksgiving

Intercession

 

:8 And he moved from there to the mountain east of Bethel, and he pitched his tent with Bethel on the west and Ai on the east; there he built an altar to the LORD and called on the name of the LORD.

:8 Bethel

See map video

(Bethel and Ai)
He moves another 20 miles further south of Shechem.
Some of you might recognize the name Ai from Wednesday nights and Joshua 8, as Bob has been teaching through the conquest of Canaan.
Abram settles between Bethel and Ai.

:8 pitched his tent

Even though God promised to give him the land, he will be a wandering nomad.

Abram would be known as a man of great wealth.  And yet after he left Haran, he never owned a home.  He just lived in tents.

(Hebrews 11:13 NKJV) These all died in faith, not having received the promises, but having seen them afar off were assured of them, embraced them and confessed that they were strangers and pilgrims on the earth.

It’s not wrong to own a home.  But keep a light touch on the things of this world.  Don’t hold on to them too tightly.  Heaven is the place we’re headed.

Abram knew that his real home was in heaven.  Heaven is where Abram wanted to settle down.

I find it interesting that at the time of Jesus, when a righteous person died, their soul went to paradise, a place referred to as “Abraham’s Bosom”.
 

:8 he built an altar to the LORD

Again, he worships God and sacrifice is implied.

This was the second altar that Abram built in the land of Canaan.

 

:8 and called on the name of the LORD

Or, “called on the name of Yahweh”

I think for the sake of time we will talk about this concept a little more in depth next week when we look at Genesis 13.

 

The first time we see this phrase in the Bible is when Adam’s grandson Enosh is born:

(Genesis 4:26 NKJV) And as for Seth, to him also a son was born; and he named him Enosh. Then men began to call on the name of the Lord.

We will see Abram do this several more times:

(Genesis 12:8 NKJV) And he moved from there to the mountain east of Bethel, and he pitched his tent with Bethel on the west and Ai on the east; there he built an altar to the Lord and called on the name of the Lord.
(Genesis 13:4 NKJV) to the place of the altar which he had made there at first. And there Abram called on the name of the Lord.
(Genesis 21:33 NKJV) Then Abraham planted a tamarisk tree in Beersheba, and there called on the name of the Lord, the Everlasting God.

Joel would write,

(Joel 2:32 NKJV) And it shall come to pass That whoever calls on the name of the Lord Shall be saved. For in Mount Zion and in Jerusalem there shall be deliverance, As the Lord has said, Among the remnant whom the Lord calls.
Joel says that if you “call on the name of Yahweh”, you will be saved.
Peter would quote this verse in his sermon on the day of Pentecost (Acts 2:21-22) along with the signs that were happening.

(Acts 2:21–22 NKJV) —21 And it shall come to pass That whoever calls on the name of the Lord Shall be saved.’ 22 “Men of Israel, hear these words: Jesus of Nazareth, a Man attested by God to you by miracles, wonders, and signs which God did through Him in your midst, as you yourselves also know—

Peter connected this “calling on the name of the Lord to calling on Jesus to be saved.

Paul would also connect this to salvation through Jesus Christ.
(Romans 10:9 ESV) because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.

Some will teach that Paul is contrasting the Roman issue of saying “Caesar is Lord” to saying that Jesus is Lord, but I think that’s the wrong connection.

In the passage, Paul clearly connects it to the prophecy in Joel like Peter did.

(Romans 10:12–13 ESV) —12 For there is no distinction between Jew and Greek; for the same Lord is Lord of all, bestowing his riches on all who call on him. 13 For “everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.”

:9 So Abram journeyed, going on still toward the South.

12:10-20 Abram goes to Egypt

:10 Now there was a famine in the land, and Abram went down to Egypt to dwell there, for the famine was severe in the land.

What do you do when a crisis hits?

Part of me can’t find fault with Abram.  He’s just taking care of his family.

But when you see what happens on this trip to Egypt, I can’t help but think that he might have made a mistake in going.

 

Swindoll’s second chapter is about this passage of Scripture and is called “When the Faithful Fail”

- Abraham – One Nomad’s Amazing Journey of Faith
 

:11 And it came to pass, when he was close to entering Egypt, that he said to Sarai his wife, “Indeed I know that you are a woman of beautiful countenance.

:11 beautiful countenance

The Hebrew here means “beautiful to look at”

Keep in mind, she’s at least 65 years old at this time.

Even though we could make a point that Abram is not trusting God here, there is a principle to learn.

Abram is a man who sees his wife as a beautiful woman.

Lesson

Beautiful wife

He doesn’t just “think” she’s nice on the eyes, we’ll see he’s so convinced of her beauty that he’s afraid for his own life because of what the unprincipled Egyptians might do to him in order to get her!
Husbands, is your wife beautiful?
If not, perhaps it’s not her fault.  Perhaps it’s yours.
In our world, we too often learn about marriage from the wrong sources, like TV.

My generation grew up watching Archie and Edith Bunker in the TV sitcom “All in the Family”

One of Archie’s favorite “pet names” for Edith was “dingbat”. Not exactly a nice thing to call your wife.

Play First “Dingbat” video

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/BI1xjbgLn5M

I hope none of you call your wives “dingbat”.  Even with a little “sweetheart” in it.

(Ephesians 5:25–27 NKJV) —25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.
Read this carefully gentlemen.  This tells us to imitate Jesus in loving our wives.  This tells us that when Jesus loves His bride, she becomes more beautiful.
A godly husband’s love for his wife ought to be a sort of “beauty spa”, resulting in her being “glorious”, with “no spot or wrinkle”.

How does a husband do this?

1. Lay down your life

You may not have the opportunity to jump in front of a bullet to save your wife, but how about the opportunity to do the kinds of things for her that put her first?

(Philippians 2:3–4 NKJV) —3 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. 4 Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.

2. Wash with your words

Some of you might look at the text and think this means reading the Bible to her every day, and I must stay that is an excellent thing to do.

But the Bible is Jesus’ word.

Husbands ought to wash their wives in their word.

What kinds of words come out of your mouth?  Do they wash her? Do they cleanse her? Do they beautify?

(Ephesians 4:29 NLT) Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.

 
Some men have the idea that if their wife would look a little nicer, they might love them a little more.

God’s Word says that if you love them a little more, they will look a little nicer.

 

Now after this romantical lesson about loving your wife, Abram is going to do a stupid thing…as he says…

:12 Therefore it will happen, when the Egyptians see you, that they will say, ‘This is his wife’; and they will kill me, but they will let you live.

Because the Egyptians respected marriage, they wouldn’t just steal Sarai, they’d kill Abraham first.

:13 Please say you are my sister, that it may be well with me for your sake, and that I may live because of you.”

It doesn’t sound like Abram is willing to “lay down his life” for his wife, does it?

Technically Sarai was Abram’s sister, his half-sister.  They had the same father but different mothers (Gen. 20:12).

:14 So it was, when Abram came into Egypt, that the Egyptians saw the woman, that she was very beautiful.

:15 The princes of Pharaoh also saw her and commended her to Pharaoh. And the woman was taken to Pharaoh’s house.

:16 He treated Abram well for her sake. He had sheep, oxen, male donkeys, male and female servants, female donkeys, and camels.

Pharaoh gave Abram presents in exchange for his “sister”. I wonder if Abram is thinking about now, “Well, it looks like my plan is working out okay!”

:17 But the LORD plagued Pharaoh and his house with great plagues because of Sarai, Abram’s wife.

God would one day send plagues on Egypt to get the nation of Israel out of Egypt. 

Here’s a foreshadowing – God sends plagues to get Abram out of Egypt.

We aren’t told what kind of “plagues” hit Pharaoh and his house. 

It’s pretty sad when an unbeliever has to suffer because of our sin.

:18 And Pharaoh called Abram and said, “What is this you have done to me? Why did you not tell me that she was your wife?

We aren’t told specifically how Pharaoh found out they were married.

:19 Why did you say, ‘She is my sister’? I might have taken her as my wife. Now therefore, here is your wife; take her and go your way.”

:20 So Pharaoh commanded his men concerning him; and they sent him away, with his wife and all that he had.

:13 Please say you are my sister

Lesson

Abram stumbles

The “father of faith” displays a lack of faith.
 
Look at what this lack of faith does:
He’s telling a half-truth about Sarai.
He’s putting his wife in danger to protect himself, yet Jesus’ example is for a husband to lay down his life for his wife.
His conduct results in some sort of “plague” affecting Pharaoh and his household, resulting in Pharaoh kicking Abram out the door.  Instead of Abram’s conduct being a light to the unbeliever, he’s brought a curse.
When they leave Egypt, it’s not without consequences.  Abram has sowed seeds that he will reap from for the rest of his life.  It seems they picked up a souvenir from their visit, a treat for Sarai, some help around the house.  They return to the Promised Land with a maidservant named Hagar (Gen. 16).
 

While Abram stumbles…

Lesson

Sarai submits

We live in a society where women are often more able to take charge of things than the men around them.
Illustration
A butcher writes, “One of the busiest times for a meat-department manager in a supermarket occurs when there is a sale on particular cuts. When we put cross-rib roasts on sale one day the result was predictable. I’d bring out a cart of roasts and before I could get them on display, women customers were jostling for their share. Three times I returned with a cart of roasts and three times they were gone before I got to the counter.  The fourth time out I noticed that a man who had quietly been watching began to approach my cart. He elbowed his way in, pushing and shoving, and finally grasped a roast. Before he could retreat from the crush, an irate woman glared at him and said, “Sir, how about being a gentleman!”  The fellow turned and said, “Ma’am, for twenty minutes I’ve been a gentleman, now I’m going to be a lady!” And with that he smiled, took his roast and walked away.”
Sarah is held up in the New Testament as an example for Christian women to follow.
(1 Peter 3:5–6 NKJV) —5 For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.
She isn’t an example just because she called Abraham “lord”.  She is an example of a woman who submitted to her husband, even when he was a knucklehead, doing a stupid thing. How did I come to that conclusion?
Look at the context of how Peter talks about Sarah’s example:
(1 Peter 3:1–2 NKJV) —1 Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.

Gals, I know it’s hard to know just how far to go with this “submission” thing, but look at Sarai’s example.  God did take care of her.  God did teach Abram a lesson.  It wasn’t Sarai’s words that taught Abram, it was Pharaoh’s rebuke.

Gals, don’t be quick to dismiss the value of submission. 

Give God a chance to teach your husband.

Submission is such a hard thing to learn.
But it’s something all of us need to learn, both men and women.
(Ephesians 5:18–21 NKJV) —18 And do not be drunk with wine, in which is dissipation; but be filled with the Spirit, 19 speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord, 20 giving thanks always for all things to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, 21 submitting to one another in the fear of God.

This is an interesting passage in the Greek. The first verse contains two “imperatives”, two commands:

Don’t get drunk

Be filled with the Spirit (I’m just going to focus on this one)

Then it’s followed by five “participles” (words ending in -ing)

Speaking, singing, “psalming” (making melody), thanking, and … submitting.

The way the Greek grammar works is like this,

When you are “filled with the Spirit” (imperative), then five things happen as a result,

Speaking, singing, “psalming” (making melody), thanking, and … submitting.

Yes, ladies, the next verse is aimed at you, about wives submitting to your husbands, but that follows what we all need to do, “submit to one another in the fear of God”.

Women and men, if you are desiring to live a life of being filled with the Spirit, don’t neglect what the Spirit is wanting to produce in your life, including this work of “submission”.

We ALL could learn a thing or two from Sarah.

 

Quiz

From the lecture (10pts):

1. ____________ the old life (Leaving)

 

Homework

Assignment:

Read Swindoll: Chapter 3: A Decision That Led to a Disaster

(Optional reading: Swindoll Intro, Chapters 1-4)

Memorize Hebrews 11:6 (note, this is a change from the syllabus!)

(Hebrews 11:6 NKJV) But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.

 

I’ve included in my notes a sermon I came across by a very godly Scottish preacher Robert Murray McCheyne on our passage.

This is not an assignment to read.  Just extra material if you have the time.

 

Blessing

 

Extra

The Call of Abraham

Robert Murray McCheyne

Now the Lord had said unto Abram, Get thee out of thy country, and from thy kindred, and from thy father’s house, unto a land that I will show thee: And I will make of thee a great nation, and I will bless thee and make thy name great; and thou shalt be a blessing: And I will bless them that bless thee, and curse him that curseth thee: and in thee shall all the families of the earth be blessed Genesis 12:1–3; Acts 7:2; Hebrews 11:8.

In these words, dear brethren, we have an account of the conversion of Abraham. This is the record given us of the second birth of Abraham. My dear friends, it is the second birth that will be remembered in heaven, and not the first. You know it is common for men to keep their birthdays. Now, the second birthday is what we will remember in heaven—it is what we will tell the angels in glory: “Come, hear, all ye that fear God—I’ll tell what he did for my soul” Psalm 66:16.

Let us notice from these words: (1) Abraham’s conversion; (2) Abraham’s trial; (3) Abraham’s promise.

I. Abraham’s Conversion

“Now the Lord had said unto Abraham”; or as Stephen says, “The God of glory appeared unto our father Abraham.”

Let us observe first, the great sovereignty of God in the conversion of this man. We are told by Stephen that he was in Mesopotamia at the time. It is a beautiful country—an immense plain lying between the Tigris and the Euphrates. We learn from the previous chapter that it was a place of great wickedness. It was the place where Nimrod, the great robber, dwelt or, as he is called, “the great hunter”. And it was the country where they built the tower of Babel. It was also the land, as we are told by Jeremiah, of graven images. It is believed by divines that it was the place where they first bowed down to graven images. Jeremiah 50:38, “For it is the land of graven images, and they are mad upon their idols”.

Another remarkable fact connected with this land was, that the very family out of which Abraham was chosen worshipped graven images. Joshua 24:2, “And Joshua said unto all the people, Thus saith the Lord God of Israel, Your fathers dwelt on the other side of the flood in old time (that is, on the other side of the Euphrates) even Terah, the father of Abraham, and the father of Nahor; and they served other gods.” Such was the country, and such the family out of which God raised Abraham. You would have thought that God would not have come into such a place; and, O brethren! you would have thought, least of all, that he would have come to the house of Terah, who served other gods! Again, you wonder why he came to Abraham. You would have thought he would have come to Terah.

Why, then, did he take Abraham a man seventy years old spent in sin? “Even so, Father, for so it seemed good in thy sight” Matthew 11:26. When he looked down upon that great plain, why did he come to the house of Terah, and say to Abraham, “Get thee out of thy country, and from thy kindred, and from thy father’s house, unto a land that I will show thee”? Ah, brethren, God is a God of grace. None of you can say, “He came to me because I sought him.” How often has God come into this place and gone into the most wicked family, and drawn out those that were deepest down in the pit, just to show how deep his hand could reach?

But notice who it was that converted him: “The Lord had said unto Abraham”. Stephen tells it more fully: “The God of glory appeared unto our father Abraham.” I have no doubt that it was the same glorious person that appeared to Jacob at the top of the ladder, and blessed him. I have no doubt that it was the same that met with Jacob when it said, “There wrestled a man with him until the breaking of the day … and he said, Let me go, for the day breaketh; and he said, I will not let thee go, except thou bless me” Genesis 32:26. I have no doubt but that it was the same that appeared to Saul when on his way to Damascus. So, in like manner, it was the same God of glory that appeared unto Abraham, and said, “Get thee out of thy country, and from thy kindred, and from thy father’s house, unto the land that I will show thee.”

Brethren, all conversion comes from God. You might rather expect the icebergs of the Atlantic to melt without the sun than expect a sinner’s heart to change without God. Brethren, it was not Abraham that sought him, but the God of glory that came to him and said, “Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If Abraham hear my voice and open the door, I will come in to him, and sup with him, and he with me” Revelation 3:20. It is not you that seek his face, but he that seeks you. Brethren, it is not a minister’s coming to you that will save you. Who sat under a godlier minister than Judas? Yet he got no grace by it.

But, further, it is said “the God of glory appeared unto him”. This is what Christ says: “Abraham rejoiced to see my day, and he saw it and was glad” John 8:56. I do not pretend to say how much was revealed to him. It is curious to remark how much Christ reveals himself to some. “The first time,” said one, “that I remember of ever tasting of the sweetness and blessedness of the gospel was in reading these words: “Now, unto the King eternal, immortal, invisible, the only wise God, be honour and glory for ever and ever. Amen.” Never words of Scripture appeared to me like these words; they came into my soul with such power and tenderness, and I longed to possess such a being as my God.” Such was the experience of one of the most eminent saints that ever lived. It perhaps was such that Abraham got, and that made him leave his father’s house. And, brethren, it is the same truth that will convert a soul now. You may be moved with fear, as Noah was, but you must be drawn by love. I believe that never a soul was converted without a sight of the God of glory.

I have just one observation more on this part of the subject, and that is the almighty power by which it was done. You will see this very evidently shown in Isaiah 41:2, “Who raised up the righteous man from the east, called him to his foot, gave the nations before him, and made him rule over kings?” etc. Notice also what is said in chapter 51:1, 2,

Hearken unto me, ye that follow after righteousness, ye that seek the Lord; look unto the rock whence ye are hewn, and to the hole of the pit whence ye are digged. Look unto Abraham your father, and unto Sarah that bare you; for I called him alone and blessed him, and increased him.

Now, in these two passages you will notice that God says it was he himself that called Abraham. And observe the words used are very remarkable I found him like a rock, yet I melted the rock. God found him fallen down to graven images, and he called him to his foot. My dear friends, this is the way God does with every soul whom he converts. God finds you like a rock; yet of these stones he raises up children to Abraham. This is my only hope of those of you who are unconverted. I have no hope of the words of man; but I would trust in God my hope is in his Word. He that raised up the righteous man is able to call you, and make you willing in the day of his power.

II. Abraham’s Trial

“Get thee out of thy country, and from thy kindred, and from thy father’s house, unto the land that I will show thee.” The trial of Abraham was twofold: First, he was tried in what he was to leave; Second, in that he did not know where he was to go.

(1) In what he was to leave. “Get thee out of thy country.” One’s country is dear to him. The Greenlander loves his icy region, and the Arab loves his sterile sand, and we love our own brown hills. But God said to Abraham, “Get thee out of thy country.” And every man loves his kindred. We do not like to bid those we love farewell. “Will strangers care for them? Will strangers be kind to them?” are thoughts that occur to our mind. Yet this was God’s command to Abraham “Get thee out of thy country, and from thy kindred.” But the worst was yet to come “Out of thy father’s house”. We love our father’s house. Our father’s house is dear to us. I do not envy the man that does not love his father’s house. Yet God said, “Get thee out of thy father’s house.”

(2) But there was a second trial. He did not know where he was to go. “Unto a land that I will show thee.” What kind of a land is it, Lord? “I will show thee.” Will the people be kind? “I will show thee.” Was it north, east, south or west? He did not know. “He went out not knowing whither he went.”“Get thee unto a land that I will show thee.” Who can tell the deep anxiety that appeared in Abraham’s countenance and tossed in his bosom, as he walked before his father’s house that night he got the command to go? Ah! brethren, this is what every converted soul has to undergo: “Get thee out of thy country, and from thy kindred, and from thy father’s house.” I will tell you what you will have to leave, if you will follow Christ.

First, you must leave the esteem of your friends. I do not say you should leave your father’s house bodily. God forbid! But you must leave their esteem. Perhaps they loved you as a friend, as a wife, as a husband; but the more they loved you they will now hate you the more. The mother hates the viper that stung her child; so will they hate you. Do not be surprised at this. “If any man will not leave father and mother and all, for my sake and the gospel, he cannot be my disciple” Luke 14:26; Mark 10:29. Brethren, do not think I am telling you stories. If the God of glory appears to you, you will find it true.

Another thing is, you will have to leave the company of the ungodly. I do not say, if you are in an ungodly family you are to leave it. No, but you are not to mix with ungodly families.

Another thing you will have to leave is your idols. Abraham did this. You must break your idols in pieces. “Come out from among them” 2 Corinthians 6:17. “Get thee out of thy country, and from thy kindred, and from thy father’s house.”

And, O brethren! you must leave them for an unseen Saviour and an unseen heaven. Remember you must walk with an unseen Saviour. Some of you will say, What will be given me? He will give you joy and peace. Remember also, “It doth not yet appear what we shall be; but we know that when he shall appear we shall be like him” 1 John 3:2.

III. Abraham’s Promise

“And I will make of thee a great nation, and I will bless thee, and make thy name great; and thou shalt be a blessing; And I will bless them that bless thee and curse him that curseth thee; and in thee shall all the families of the earth be blessed”verses 2–3. We have here six blessings following one another.

(1) “I will make thee a great nation.” God was taking him out of a great nation; but he said, “I will make of thee a great nation.” So he says to all that he calls, “I will make you one of a righteous nation”—“I will make of thee a great nation.”

(2) “I will bless thee.” God did not tell him where he was going, what enemies he would meet with, what trials he would encounter, yet he said, “I will bless thee.” This is what God says to you If you are willing to leave all for Christ, “I will bless thee”. Perhaps your friends will curse thee, but “I will bless thee”.

(3) “I will make thy name great.” When he went from his father’s house, he went where his name was not known; and, perhaps, they mocked him when he went away; but God called him “my friend”—Isaiah 41:8. So perhaps it will be with you; yet God will make thy name great.

(4) “And thou shalt be a blessing.” Abraham had been a curse by his example he had worshipped graven images; but God said he would be a blessing. So he says to you, brethren, No doubt you have been a curse no doubt you have led many to hell by your wicked example; yet I will make thee a blessing a blessing to your children, a blessing to your wife, a blessing to your neighbours, a blessing to the world; the world will miss you when you die.

(5) “I will bless them that bless thee, and curse him that curseth thee.” Abraham was to meet friends and enemies. There were some in another land that would be kind to the stranger, and there were some that would cast him out. “Well,” says God, “I will bless them that bless thee, and curse him that curseth thee.” God is with thee, Abraham; God is thy wall of fire. Ah, brethren! it is sweet to have God’s blessing.

(6) “In thee shall all families of the earth be blessed.” This last promise was fulfilled when out of Abraham’s loins Christ was born. It cannot be performed to us in the same way; but yet it can in one way. If you are Christ’s then, wherever you are, you will be a blessing.

O brethren! if you would follow Christ, count the cost. The Lord enable you to count the cost. Amen.[1]

 

 

 

 



[1] McCheyne, R. M., Finney, C. G., Calvin, J., & Edwards, J. (2020). A Treasury of Great Preaching: 5 Vol. Set. WORDsearch.